neurobiological disorder or just different wiring?

I find it quite interesting how so many people can have so many opinions! On the one hand, ADHD is a disorder. It affects how we learn, react, perform ( or don't perform!) executive functions, and view our world.
Our world... hmmm, we make our own little world now, don't we? But that's another story...
Research is showing the brain in Pet scans and MRI's as different than the non ADHD brain. Medication helps our brains "light up" and perform the tasks that we need to do on a more "normal" level.
Non treated ADHDers are more likely to get into traffic accidents, become alcoholics or substance abusers, and have difficulties in relationships. EEK , that just sounds downright depressing!! Funny, I don't feel disordered... But rather, instead, disconnected.

I am disconnected from the real world when I start daydreaming for no apparent reason.
I am disconnected from friendships because there are those that view me as "inapproachable"
I am disconnected from social gatherings because my mind blanks out or I have a problem making small talk.

disconnectedness... Is that part of a disorder? Or just being wired differently??

Funny, when surrounded by people that are "hyper" ( for lack of a better term, cause I wouldn't know if they were truly ADD or not..)

I am connected to the real world, because other ADDer energy keeps me involved and focused.
I am connected to possible friendships because I totally enjoy being with people who can actually OUTTALK me! LOL
I am connected in social gatherings because we all just interrupt each other and no one cares!!

So is it really a disorder? Or different wiring?

I honestly think it's a little of both. We are wired differently , we are unusual, sometimes a little on the strange side, but always a lot of fun when in our element!
We have a disorder because we do not fit society's views of what is "normal"

Maybe it is more of a disorder because we have not figured out to accommodate our differences in such a way that does not involve Shame, depression, or anxiety. If we could figure that out, maybe we wouldn't need that medication. Accepting ourselves as we are, as creative, enthusiastic, and tirelessly inquisitive individuals.. Gee, that doesn't sound so "disordered" does it?